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As a hypnotherapist, I challenge people to change their thoughts to
change their destiny. I believe the whole purpose of this incarnation
is to learn to love our-selves first, and then to extend that love to
others. Until we really learn to fully love ourselves, we put on a
protective shield because we do not feel safe in the world. We create
self-imposed limitations to love. The good news is that we can free
ourselves from our self-limitations. We can change our mind about how
we see the world by getting in touch with our inner spirit. At the core
of our being we are love, so there is no need to search for it, just
acknowledge it.
It is our inner critic, bombarding us with negative messages, which
blocks our receptivity to love. Most of these messages we heard and
accepted about ourselves date back to our early childhood. Our negative
thought patterns may have come from parents, siblings, peers,
relatives, authority figures or others who played a major role in our
lives. Young and vulnerable, we made the decision to accept their
restrictive messages as truth. Remember, those who gave us limiting
information were dealing with their own negative internal messages. I
believe that these people all did the best they could, even if it
wasn’t good enough! We cannot change the past, but we can consciously
make the decision to let go of our own limiting beliefs. It is a
choice. Louise Hay, author of You Can Heal Your Life, states, “ No
matter what the problem, the main issue to work on is loving the self.
This is the “magic wand” that dissolves problems.”
We seem to adopt personas or masks to “fit” in the world, gaining
recognition or trying to please others at our own expense. As we grow,
we become aware of “spoken or unspoken” expectations that others have
imposed on us. Failing to meet these expectations, we take on the
feelings of inferiority and unworthiness.
To blame others for our unhappiness only takes away from our own power, viewing our-selves as victims.
To free ourselves from these restraints, we can learn to love and
accept all parts of ourselves, claiming responsibility for what we
think, feel and do. We may even begin to look at our experiences as
gifts. We might ask ourselves how our experiences helped us to evolve.
We then become masters rather than victims.
I believe that once we are willing to take responsibility for our
own lives, getting in touch with our joy and our passion, our life is
transformed. The journey begins by getting in touch with the Divine
part of us, our inner connection. We just need a little willingness to
get in touch with our feelings and to love ourselves without judgment
for what we are experiencing. We don’t need to change ourselves to love
ourselves. We can love ourselves with all of our feelings of inadequacy
and perceived limitations. I don’t believe we can love ourselves with
our mind, the intellectual part, but rather with our heart. I invite
you to participate in the following exercise to get in touch with your
inner spirit.
Move into the heart area and take a few long, deep breaths.
Imagine a beautiful pink light surrounding the area of your heart.
Feel your Divine connection, that spark of the Light within each of us. Fill yourself with it.
Allow yourself to move into the awareness of this calm, peaceful feeling.
Get in touch with your feelings. Let go of any resistance to allowing all of your feelings.
When you take responsibility for your feelings, accepting them, you take charge of yourself.
Send this loving tranquility to each part of you that needs it.
(the part that is feeling angry, unloved, judgmental, confused, scared,
anxious, misrepresented, grief, insecure, etc.) Breathe that love into
your being. Know that you are not alone in this transformative work.
Ask for help.
I invite you to make these statements:
I know that all of my feelings are okay. I let go of my resistance to them.
I willingly release all things that no longer serve me in a healthy way.
I love myself for who I am right now, and for who I am becoming.
I am willing to give and receive love, knowing that I am a loving and lovable person.
Breathe that truth into the core of your being. This is allowing personal transformation.
Happiness does not lie outside of our-selves. It is getting in
touch with who and what we are at the core of our being. We see our
life as a journey with many choices. To experience freedom and
happiness, we need to allow ourselves to have all of our feelings and
to be okay with them. Surrendering to our feelings, allowing them to
wash over us without judgment, brings credence to our experiences. If
we deny or ignore our feelings, they will come back to us in another
form until we have dealt with them. Learning to love all parts of
our-selves expands our capacity to love others with their problems and
limitations. Loving our-selves fully cancels out the fear to love
others.
And so I invite you to direct love and tenderness toward yourself
this week. Allow yourself to feel the emotions that are stirred through
just living life. Feel the emotions, surrendering to them without
judgment. Love yourself for who you are and what you are feeling in
that moment. As you breathe in self-love, you will find a blissful,
freeing state. Allowing the feeling without judgment transmutes the
emotion. When we love ourselves fully, we are in the Oneness. In that
place, we experience that happiness lies within us.
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